“There can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children.” – Nelson Mandela.
Children are the little angels sent among us to make our lives joyful. They are the future individual of our society. The future of the world is solely dependent on these little ones. So, we the parents have an important role to play to develop the personality of our children so that society can have a true human beings in the future. We have several steps to follow in this regard.
Practicing good behavior:
“Children need models rather than critics.” –Joseph Joubert, French moralist.
We parents are habituated to giving instructions about dos & don’ts to our children, but we forget that children love to copy others & as we are the near ones to them so they have a natural tendency to copy our behavior most of the time.
So before teaching them we should behave ourselves so that they find in us an ideal person to copy. Be alert & cautious about your body language at the time walking, talking, eating, sleeping, etc. parents are the first teacher to their children by presenting before them a role model.
Allow children to be creative:
“Children are not things to be molded, but are people to be unfolded.” – Jess Lair, author.
Allow your children to do what they like. If your child likes to draw then let him draw; if you see him color your room walls, then don’t scold him but purchase such kind of color pen which easily can be washed from the walls.
There are so many kinds of toys that help to increase the intellect of your child. You may provide those to your kids. Bring your child to color papers, ribbons, or other DIY items & inspire him to create what they like. If they love to play with mud, then bring them proper tools or molds to make different types of models like – houses, fruits, vegetables, etc. As the age grows, the liking or hobby also goes to different dimensions. Do needful when what is required.
This type of inspiration will promote creativity in them which will be helpful in their future.
Read stories for your children:
“If you want your children to be intelligent, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be more intelligent, read them more fairy tales.” – Albert Einstein.
The non-sense verses have the power to develop senses in children. Parents or old members of a family should take responsibility to read fairy tales or any heroic stories to the little members of that family. Those tales will leave a great imprint on the little minds. Their minds will be thoughtful & enriched.
They could find their role model in those stories; again a sad happening in a story may make them feel for others. Sometimes those stories help them to judge what is right & what is wrong. The positivity which they gather from those tales proves beneficial to building a positive personality & a good character.
Active involvement with life:
“Tell me & I’ll forget; show me & I may remember; involve me & I’ll understand.” – A Chinese proverb.
Involve your child actively in daily activities. After three years of age of your child teach her to do her daily activities herself. It may be brushing her teeth, wearing clothes & shoes, or combing her hair. With the increasing her age, you may tell her to pack her school bag or arrange her bookshelf, etc.
Good habits like rising early in the morning, exercising regularly, maintaining cleanliness, telling truth always, behaving properly with others, respecting elders, etc do not come to one’s personality overnight, a regular disciplined effort is needed for that.
Don’t force to study:
“Do not keep children to their studies by compulsion but by play.” – Plato.
Today’s parents are more aggressive toward their children. They think that if they do not pressurize their beloved children then they may go perverted & their future will be full of darkness. So they always keep pressure on them for reading texts as more as possible. Even a few parents go beyond the limit when they fully take their child out of play. Being forced that little soul feels uncomfortable & oppressed. The kid then finds him not in free space but in a pressure cooker.
The parents must be aware of this serious matter. They should allow them to spend their spare time with their hobbies & feel at home; shouldn’t pressurize them to score more marks on school tests. Tell them to take their study as a play & join them in their study; playfully teach them. Thus the apathy in the study can be erased from their minds.
Don’t compare with another child:
As all the fingers of our palm are not alike, likewise every child has its own characteristics & intellect. If parents go on comparing their kids with other kids who may have scored good marks on school tests, then their kids may feel humiliated. This sense of humiliation leads to depression & afterward this depression may cause serious mental disease in them, sometimes it is heard that teenagers have committed suicide due to depression.
Take your child as he/she is, mere comparison with their friends is nothing but a foolish attempt. Every person has his own potentiality in his own arena, try to find out the liking of your child & inspire him to continue with it. The duty of parents is as same as the duty of a gardener who cares for his saplings providing food & safety. So say no to COMPARING & welcome INSPIRING.
Encourage outdoor games:
“Play is the highest expression of human development in childhood, for it alone is the free expression of what is in a child’s soul.”- Friedrich Froebel.
Always encourage your kids to play outside with their friends. Outside games like football, basketball, kabaddi, cricket, baseball, etc help to make kids physically fit & mentally sound. While playing with others, a sense of taking responsibility, fraternity & a leadership mentality grow in them which are very much influential on their personality.
Keep them aloof from video gaming or net surfing as much as possible because those activities hurt both their body & mind. If possible, play with them outside at least once in a week to cheer them up.
A loving attitude:
“The best way to make children good is to make them happy.” - Oscar Wilde.
The word Love has no alternative in this world. Children are as beautiful as flowers; they are considered the simplest creature of this universe. So as parents we must love them by all means. Show your love in every respect towards your child, befriend him. The thing which is most needed in this present world is love. So if we don’t show our love to him then afterward he would be a person without love & will not see others with loving eyes.
But parents should not mix loving & pampering, when love is shown in an unrestricted way it is called pampering. Be careful about not making your child a pampered one.
Give financial lessons:
“When I had money everyone called me brother.” -Polish proverb.
Teach your children about the value of money. Disciplined use of money is good practice. Give your children a small amount of money & keep noticing how they utilize it. Give them basic knowledge about the importance of savings; for this, you may bring them a piggy bank where they can save coins or notes.
This savings habit will not allow them to be spendthrifts rather it will make them financially strong in their future.
The points mentioned here will be very much helpful to build the personality of your children if carefully followed. We all hope for a bright future, & for that, we must follow these steps; be a good parent & be a dutiful citizen
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