Wonderful Tips on How To Convince Parents For Love Marriage

If you are in relation with someone & decide to marry him/her, but meanwhile you learn that your parents are preparing for your marriage to someone else then it is none less than a bolt from the blue to you. Of course, it is a stressful situation for you. To overcome this situation you have to start conversations with your parents, arrange a get-together between your partner & parents; try to win their hearts with your words on choosing your partner. It may take a little bit of time but at last, the ice will be melted.

How To Convince Parents Of Love Marriage

 1. Create a friendly atmosphere with your parents:

 “One of the greatest titles in the world is parent, and one of the biggest in the world is to have parents to call mom & dad.” – Jim Demint

 Try your utmost to build a friendly atmosphere with your parents by spending quality time with them. Sometimes there is a generation gap between us & our parents; nowadays we all are busy with our respective businesses & have less time to talk to our family members. Start mixing with your parents like a friend & share your everyday experience. Tactfully raise your relation matter before them & discuss her/him.

If possible give them company at the dining table which is the best place for comfortable talking. If there is a problem in presenting yourself in physical mode then you may chat with them regularly via video calling.

 2. Be honest to win your parents’ confidence:

 Honestly is the best policy to tackle any adverse situation. An honest person can convince anyone with his attitude. Be honest to your partner as well as to your parents. Uphold your concern to your parents with strong confidence, your honest views about your choice will surely leave a positive impact on them.

 3. Discuss the importance of marriage with your parents:

 “Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.”- Tom Mullen

 The views in respect of marriage may differ from man to man. Your parents have their own views & you have your own. You should talk to them to know their views on marriage & present your personal views before them. You assure them that you will be happy in married life when your love will be your spouse. An unknown person whom you know less cannot be the right one as your partner as he/she has the least understanding with you. A better understanding is the key to a happy married life. 

 4. Don’t argue with your parents & be patient:

 Marriage is an important matter in anyone’s life; it has the power to make one happy or ruined, so before marriage, we have to be patient enough. No one can deny that our parents are our first teachers & they have some expectations from us. They have seen & experienced a lot in their lives. So they may have their choice for their life partner. You must be an obedient listener to their words first then in a gentle mode keep your words before them; avoid strong arguments which may worsen the situation. If one sitting is not enough for availing the conclusion then take time & continue your humble persuasion.

 5. Involve a third person to convince your parents:

 Sometimes it is seen that much talking with your parents goes in vain to melt the ice. The arrogance or stubbornness of some parents crosses the limit and they are not ready to talk further about your opinions on love marriage, because they think your life will be ruined with your choice.

 In this situation you may take the help of your relatives, you may ask your loving grandparents or uncles who are elder than your parents to intervene, as they are elder & respected by your parents so their advocacy cannot be readily refused by your parents. 

 6. Be financially dependent:

 Financial freedom is the first criterion for a happy life after marriage. Be financially strong enough, otherwise if you will not be able to convince your parents to marry your loved person. If you are dependent on your parents for your house rent, medical expenses, etc. then you have no way to disobey your parents. 

 7. Mention your previous successful decisions to your parents:

 You are well-grown enough to run a family of your own, so you have decided to marry your loved one. From your childhood, you have surely made so many decisions which have proved all right & successful. Now you have chosen your future life partner, this selection is no doubt has been done after a lot of homework. So remind your parents of the past successful decisions you had taken, this will surely help to convince them to give you the green signal.

 8. Be confident in your relationship:

 You have to be confident in your partner. Take time before making the final decision. A fragile relationship may cause you to suffer a lot in the future. Ensure the commitment of your partner. Get full information about the past life of your beloved. After you have got full knowledge, you will be confident enough to talk to your parents.

9. Get your partner ready before presenting him/her to your parents:

 Your partner is unaware of the nature & liking of your parents. She/ he may feel uncomfortable before them for the first time. So you need to prepare your partner well with the knowledge about your partner like – what they love to eat or what type of person they are or which type of dress code they like to see him/her wear etc.  Such kinds of lessons will be helpful to decrease the hesitancy of your partner before them.

 

 10. Introduce your loved person to your parents:

Fix a meeting between your partner & your parents. It will help your parents to know well about your girl/boy. Invite your partner on different occasions like your parents’ birthday or mother’s day or father’s day to give your parents space to interact with her/him.

11. Arrange a meeting between your family & your partner’s family:

 Marriage is not merely bondage between a girl & a boy but also bondage between two families. So it is a necessary step for you to arrange a meeting between both families. It will help to resolve the puzzles in the minds of your parents about your in-laws’ family.

 12. What about inter-caste marriage:

 In India, there is the problem of inter-caste marriage. The parents of a girl or boy don’t allow any relationship with another caste. As there is a caste system like upper caste or lower caste etc., the upper caste parents hardly want to make a relationship with the lower caste. If you have fallen in love with someone who belongs to another caste then you have to put much effort to convince your parents to love marriage. Your parents may be orthodox in this respect, they may have their own arguments, but you have to humbly converse with them. You must put examples from the society where so many inter-caste marriages have taken place successfully & make them believe that you will be a happy person if they embrace your choice.

 13. Don’t create pressure upon your parents:

 Repeated persuasion to your parents to support your decision in marrying your loved one may create an unhealthy atmosphere between you & your parents. Mind that you need their blessings for your happy life, a permission that is made in an unsatisfied mood is none but a curse.

    14. Stay positive:

 Marriage is a sensitive issue in a family. Lots of expectations, hope, argument, counter-argument, debate, etc. one has to face. Without a positive mindset, nobody can overcome those situations to reach one's destination which is to marry one's loved person.

If you show any negativity or swaying mentality before your parents while keeping your words before them then you can never convince them.

   15. Don't lose your temper:

When you will converse with your parents first time about your love relationship, then you have to face so many questions which you must answer confidently. If they raise any objection, don't be downcast or depressed, sometimes out of temper a girl or a boy take the rash decision of ending the relationship with their parents; such kind of attitude is not expected. So keep control of your temper; don't break a relationship to build another one.

Conclusion:

Marriage is a heavenly bond between two souls. If you are in love with somebody else then it is obvious that you would long to have him/her as your life partner. But your parents who are not aware of the person you love may be reluctant to give you permission to make a relationship. Convincing your parents to love marriage will be easy if you follow the steps mentioned above, and thus you will be a happy one with your loved person. 

FAQ:

Question No.1: Is it good to marry against your parent's wish?

Ans: Our parents are our living gods. If they raise any objection to your choice of partner there may be certain causes. You have to resolve the puzzles they have in support of their objection. If you satisfy them with your positive answer then OK, if they are stubborn in their illogical views & you have complete faith in your selection then you may dare to go against them.

Question No.2: Is love marriage successful?

Ans: The success of any kind of marriage whether it is a love marriage or arranged depends upon the understanding of the conjugal. If there is a strong bonding between them then no outside element can make chaos in their married life.

Question No.3: Why do Indian parents say no to love marriage?

Ans: Arranged marriage is the tradition of Indian culture, but nowadays love marriages are taking place successfully. Sometimes the upper caste -lower caste, rich-poor, educated-uneducated, etc. are the issues for which Indian parents think that love marriage will not be a good match for their child as well as for their family also. This mindset restraint them to allow their children to set up love relation.